In real life, however, what you need is a place where you can be physically active. A place where you can break, smash, pound, chop, beat, sweat, grunt, feel your strength, howl, break things, throw heavy things about, smash other things, do whatever you need to do, and shout and swear the obscenities you need to express. In short, you need to have a place where you can do anything and everything simply to get this energy out of your system.
And remember this energy needs vocalizing. It’s the scream of the Warrior on a killing rampage inside you trying to make itself heard.
What of those moments where you feel rage coming up? If you have no other recourse, simply drop to the floor and do between 10 and 30 push-ups as hard and fast as you can. See how that makes you feel. (Better, I hope!)
No matter where this potentially violent male warrior energy lives in your body, it needs to be under your control. That means every so often you need to find a space where you can let it out as much as possible, without inhibition, and as loudly as need be, in a safe way.
This approach to Warrior management prevents attacks on your co-workers, kids, wife or friends, stops passive-aggressive behaviours, avoids self-destructive internalized rage, and helps to prevent physical violence.
But to fully integrate your masculinity into your being you need to treat your internal primal spear-throwing hunter-killer with respect. You need to give him something to do that serves you in today’s world. Most likely he cannot go out hunting for food, and he may not be needed to protect your family from warmongers from another tribe, but he still needs something to do, something which serves you in the world today.