Alright, so, one of the huge lies we tell our kids: nepotism bad, and an exception rather than the rule, and an expected norm in the workplace.
I think it's a combination of our growing lack of genuine social connections, and public school's insistence on telling the lie that people can achieve anything they dream if they work hard enough and are smart enough.
I went to private school, and they didn't teach us that crock of shit. Our teachers directly told us "Partying and making friends in college is just as important as getting a degree, because unless you have a 4.0 (weighted 5.0) from Harvard, you get hired not because of what you know, but who you know. Sometimes your friend can set you up with a better paying job because you have a specific degree, but without your friend setting you up, you're not getting a job in the first place."
This is not some massive conspiracy, but the simple truth/reality of the job market since.... forever. In the 50's 60's and 70's heyday of the old economy, when it seemed like anybody could get a job/business-loan straight out of school, people lived in smaller communities, where the business owner/loan-giver knew the applicant, at-least tertiarily, since they were a small child, and they saw him grow from a little boy, to an educated man, and they are inclined/pressured to give that man a chance.
Today, you're some faceless keystrokes on Craigslist, or if you're lucky, a face they've never seen walking in the front door. That is not the same.
My suggestion, go to some parties, even if you don't like parties. Think of it as Networking 101. Build your professional support network. Keep your red-pills to yourself within your professional support network until you're high enough up in the foodchain that you won't lose your network for them.... that sort of discussion is for real friends anyway (or random anons on Sup Forums) Small-talk is a job skill.