>just got out of work, studying for midterm next week then watching kino later tonight
>female dorm mates approach me
>"user, why are you watching movies alone by yourself on the weekends. Wanna party with us tonight for a change?
How should I respond? I really wanna watch movies and shitpost in Sup Forums tonight but tonight might be THE night, bros.
My suggestion...
Party with them but don't get into nervous 'I must get laid' mode. Enjoy the female company, let it arouse you in a relaxed way, and see what happens. If not relaxed, breathe deep and focus again on letting the female company arouse you in a relaxed way.
When I say relaxed, I mean a whole body physical sort of thing, not an egoistic mental 'must score to validate myself' way. The former arouses others - the latter is creepy.
this is the first time i got approached by women who are of my age. i dont think i can keep my cool especially later on when we start drinking. fuck...
If you get nervous, breathe deep and try to become aware of your body as much as possible. Try to be aroused. It's hard to be aroused and nervous at the same time. Arousal gets rid of nervousness. But of course, I mean aroused not in a creepy way, but in a chill way. Think about what the girls around you would look like naked if it helps, but be aware of social norms - don't stare.
As for alcohol, you don't have to drink a bunch. Just drink a little bit, or nothing at all, if you think it might be an issue.
Oh yeah, and another thing... don't think of this as "my only opportunity". That will tend to make you nervous. Think of it more as "this is a sign that I'm doing some things right... I'm going to keep this social competence going, learn what I can, improve my abilities to chill with hot women... no matter what happens I will be more skilled at the end of the night than I am now. I will keep working on this and will have many opportunities in the future."
Do what other user said. Try not to get too bored you're in for an absolutely awful time.
Ignore this long winded faggot.
If you go out thinking it is gonna be THE night it won't be. Just go out try to have some fun talk to some cute girls and see what happens. There is a reason why they call it getting lucky
Any other anons here been approached by possibly underage girls?
Trying to befriend the designated shooter they are.
I got approached by oldetwomen (40+) once because some dumb freshman brought his single mom with him to a party.
maybe don't drink? I'm kinda like you and when I got invited with some classmates to get some beers I started to say and do embarrasing shit like blowing kisses and calling people faggots, desu only drink if you can hold it and have experience
Say yes to them and then stay home and watch kino.
Go hang out with them. It would be an insult to them if you didn't. Just relax. They aren't going to fuck you. Their friends aren't going to fuck you. You aren't going to suddenly emerge as a party god tonight. Just go with the flow. If people wanna do shots, do shots. Talk to people. Ask them about themselves. You'll probably never see half of them again so don't be desperate to make them like you. You're gonna have some awkward interactions, just don't fixate on them and keep on rolling. You probably won't meet anyone exactly like you tonight, but you'll meet people who know people who know people who could become your best friends for life. That's all social interaction is, just wading through a network of people until you find the other yous. All you need to do is seem like you're comfortable with who you are and you have a direction in life, then let people tell you about themselves. If someone mentions something that doesn't sound horrible to you, like they like movies or something, make plans with them to hang out some other time. Don't do this with a girl unless she suggests it since it will just seem like you're trying to ask her out. Hang out with the people you meet through this party and find out about who they hang out with. Have fun and remember it doesn't matter.
>Don't do this with a girl unless she suggests it since it will just seem like you're trying to ask her out.
Hmm... don't see why that would be a bad thing (I'm not OP, BTW).
Masturbate several times before you leave, trust me.
If OP is kindof an outsider and asks out a girl in a close-knit friend group the first time he hangs out with them it could seem weird. It's better to just let people know you exist the first time you hang out with them. It's different if you're going out to a bar or club where it's just random people, but this sounds like a Uni party where there are going to be specific groups of friends at the party.
she's just trying to be nice to you so that when you shoot up the school you don't go after her
Alternate weekly desu. Go with them now then next week imvite them to watch kino at a commons area (assuming you guys have that in your dorm
>If OP is kindof an outsider and asks out a girl in a close-knit friend group the first time he hangs out with them it could seem weird.
That's totally true, if they're not hitting it off. But if he does happen to hit it off with somebody, might as well go for it.
Yeah if OP plants the seed about being into film tonight that could be good. Sound knowledgeable about it without giving them a lecture so they know he's passionate about something and not just a marvel fanboy. Then eventually get them to watch a film together and pick something entry level enough for them, but still artsy enough that they will be able to tell their friends they saw an "indie flick" and look smart.
DO THIS DO THAT
NO NOT THAT WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT
DONT DO THAT EITHER WAIT DO IT NOW
ITS SO FRUSTRATING AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Gotta follow the rules and as a man there are a lot of rules for you to follow
Yeah if it's a sure thing go for it. I'm just saying it seems like these girls are trying to do OP a favor so he needs to not seem like a creep so they will want to hang out with him again. If he is just a nice dude that is easy to talk to, helps buy drunk food at the end of the night, and walks girls back to the dorm so they're safe he'll have a new set of friends to hang out with. There is nothing wrong with just being friends with a girl at Uni. The thing about girls is they are friends with other girls. If they think you're nice they'll try to hook you up. That was my experience at least.
But Chad doesnt follow rules though
Entry level garbage like Spring Breakers or something meaningful like Tarkovsky or Rublev?
Because usually thots can't understand what's going on in the movie anyway, so he should probably go for a safe bet with something like Enter the Void.
I'm just telling you what I wish I knew my first year at Uni. There isn't a science to this. You just kind of try your best. If you want to ignore everything else, just listen to this: All anyone wants is to know that the way they are is okay. If you can get people talking and listen to what they have to say and make them feel good about who they are, they will want to hang out with you more.
Chad follows a ton of rules that allow him to bypass your rules
Entry level like Moonrise Kingdom
You can whine all you want about Chad or you can make a fair assessment of what you have to offer and make the best of it.
Ah, I see what you're saying. Yeah, I agree.
best advice in the thread
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I have this really bad feeling OP is going to try to talk to these girls about Tarkovsky then do too many shots and try to break-dance. OP if you are still here please do not do this.
OP at the party
Go and be cool. Don't be desperate, you probably won't get laid tonight. There will be plenty of time of kino later when you don't live around qt's
Just b urself :)
Seriously though. Relax and don't think about it too much honestly. Think about what you want to get out of this experience. Best case scenario you meet a 10/10 qt that digs you, but what's more likely? You hang out with people and drink/talk, get to meet some people, maybe make a new friend, or at the very least just get some experience socializing. Keep a modest goal and approach the experience with that goal in mind
dude just get buzzed and dance your fucking ass off.
If you get nervous, just drink more.
Anyone else binge drink over the weekend and take until next Thursday to recover? Am I just old?
I'm 27 and polish off about half a bottle of whiskey or vodka a night and get up for work just fine the next day. Work on your alcoholism.
cringe
Don't answer the question. Just say yes sure and from there just be yourself. Don't think about what to say or to do nor on how to behave. Do not think about the way the others see you. Do no think about what you look like at all.
That way you won't spent the next 6 months locked in your room thinking about what you should have said or done reenacting the night over and over again while at the same time thinking you're a complete loser.
Keep your expectations low.
You'll build confidence after a few of these nights
If you don't do it you'll regret it later.
The worst possible thing that could happen still would not be as bad as the regret.
Don't do it. Say "maybe next time." If you go, you'll seem desperate. Thank her for asking, and invite her to watch movies with you.
YOURE BETTER THAN THEM THEY NEED A LEADER NOT A PARTNER RESPECT YEAH BUT DONT LET EM GET OUT OF line i love you stay inside cry
God damn this is cringe.
OP, don't go. You're a boring introvert and probably weird.
>breaking out of your shell is cringe
>staying at home is cool
wew
How do you feel health-wise? That sounds absolutely awful
I made female friends my first day at college amazingly but we eventually drifted apart because I was autistic and didn't drink until I was 21 so I lost out on the "genuine" freshman experiences they had
I lost my virginity my senior year, sadly
You'll realise one day that normies are fucking empty husks. Your own company is much better. Or going out to a late night diner with a very close friend and not endulging in vices
Oldfag here. Go. One of them wants to hook up with you guaranteed. Theyve been planning this trust me. Its what girls do. Which one? Hard to say but they will make it known sometime during the night. Trust your instincts and dont defeat yourself. Just dont act like a knob and things will turn out great. This is pne of lifes tests. Youll do fine
You use normies to find good friends. Deciding you're better than everyone and isolating yourself is so insecure. If you're really so great, everyone should see that, right?
>How should I respond? I really wanna watch movies and shitpost in Sup Forums tonight but tonight might be THE night, bros.
if you keep a healthy balance you are alright. go often enough to not cut yourself out but keep every other weekend to yourself.
if you havent gone out for a few weeks you should go!
don't go
it will be a waste of time and money, and you'll be pissed at the end of the night
Good luck finding your intelectual soulmate at a frat party
go have fun
hide your autism
hide your power level
I'd listen to this guy: Don't know about guaranteed, but there's a decent chance.
Go back a few posts and re-read what I said. You meet people to meet other people to meet other people until you find your people. And also holy shit, do you not realize that most frats are legitimately for networking and not partying? Or did you go to some shitty state school?
not him, but I just stayed in my room whenever I wasn't in class
underrated
Do you ever steal their panties from the laundry room in your dorm?
I spent most of my time outside of class in the library or the lab. I really only went to my dorm to sleep.
this guy fucks
I was a software engineer student so I could do my work at home
Smile, not a massive grin but look like you're having a good time. Enjoy drinking but don't over do it, be in control. Don't panic, it's scary I know, but you're going to be fine. You might not get laid but you will be fine. and finally, whatever you do, if you say something awkward or do something awkward, like if you fuck up. Don't panic. just have a laugh at it. It's not just a game of keeping spaghetti from falling out of your fanny pack. It's just as good if you can keep it from hitting the floor so you don't have to get on your knees and scoop it up. Like I've had conversations that I've accidentally talked about duck penises but I managed to pull out of the spiral.
Oh nice.
You'll never find your people. If you weren't 21 you'd know this. If you had people you wouldn't be here arguing with me on a Saturday night
t. virgin
I have people. I'm old and married now so I have the luxury of not having to go out every Saturday.
>26 years old
>last year of college
>eating alone in common's and planning to find somewhere quiet to eat to work on my thesis
>some high schoolers are touring the campus and they're having lunch in the common's as well so nowhere to sit
>pass by one of their tables on the way to a booth
>"Heeeeey"
>look down as some bracefaced mulatto smiling up at me
>kinda laugh it off 'w-what's up?'
>"What's your naaam--?"
>"KAYLA!"
>her friend cuts her off
>"What??? He's cute!"
>tilt my head and laugh again as I walk away to the booth
>can feel them staring at my back and hear giggling everyone once in a while
I was doing pretty well with the ladies at the time and hadn't been nervous to talk to them in years, but I was sweating fucking beads like I was 14 again.
Tryna get a nigga locked up.
I'm sure there's more occurrences of this like this happening since I have looked like I'm 19 for the past 8 years but that's the only one where I felt i didn't have control of the situation and i was freaking out.
t. Teenager who just discovered some PUA, self-help faggotry
How fat is your wife?
She isn't, why do you ask?
>they are in small groups
>usually starts with them asking me to buy alcohol
>invite me to their party
>"don't worry user there will be people your age there as well"
>typical highschool parties
>was kinda cool when I was 18/19 and it wasn't creepy
>ten years later and I wonder why they still do this
No attractive person would marry such a cringelord
I look young and when I was 23 in a Panera a girl that must have been no older than 16 stared me straight in the eye unblinking, licked her straw and then began sucking on it. Just staring me dead in the eye. She was very cute.
I got the fuck out of there.
I also had a girlfriend at the time too, besides the whole going to jail thing.
So you're an expert on relationships and marriage then? That's interesting. How did you acquire this knowledge-base?
THIS
>Enjoy the female company
t. virgin
Yeah, but then if one of them does try to fuck him he won't be able to get it up
Now, now user. He might have a lot of money.
I've had shit like this happen but I just assume they're fucking around and/or trying to get me to talk to them which I won't do so that bothers me less than the ones that are fucking 16 and come up to me and start talking and touching me.
>let it arouse you in a relaxed way
wew
>qt in biochem class saw me watching The Big Lebowski at lunch
>proceeds to sit next to me and discuss film
>she immediately raves about being the biggest Tarantino fan and upholding Pulp Fiction as a top 10 film of the 20th century
>agree with her, forced to give up my taste in film for pussy
Did i do good lads?
>giving up what you believe in for roasties
desperate soy
tldr
don't even entertain the idea of getting with them
if they mean house party then socialize with everyone but them
if it's just bars then idk, but the important thing is not to be interested until one of them seems into you - if no one is, then they're your friends.
i've found its tough to stay friends with anyone who doesn't want to be just friends, and codependent girls will start shit with each other sometimes out of jealousy
Go. You fucking go drink with them. Don't try to get laid
the fuck is your rebound period nigga. I can get hard within a few minutes of blowing a load. I'm 20 though.
yeah are you 40 or something? I fuck my gf continuously after cumming. I still have a semi-hard which gets hard again after a few minutes
like yeah, if you only jack off once, sure
twice, still doable
three times, nah I'm done. I'll struggle to get another boner that day
four times, well it won't be close to fun and sex will be the last thing i want
take some pics for us as you fuck them pls
i can go up to 4 desu, but that's throughout the day