That's an interesting question user and I've a few thoughts of my own. An individual is a collection of experiences, preferences, information and actions constantly being analyzed by a biological computer, if you will.
You, as you stand, are fruit of your past actions and, while you cannot change it anymore, you can take actions in the now to shape your future which then will define who you will be. You are not necessarily who you think / pretend / wish you are but who you acted to be
i.e. most larpers here project their wish to be learned in politics, economy, ethics and so on, but few have actually studied it; if asked, they will say that they like these things but the fact they spend more time on games, series and whatnot, proves that, contrary to what they claim, they are people who value other things over knowledge for that's how they've acted.
Yet you cannot have the appreciation of an intellectual and the life of a neet